As with many of you, I enjoy the switch to calm after the busyness of the holidays. In fact, I am writing this blog on Christmas afternoon…as our boys quietly play with their new toys and I feast on the quiet that has decided to rest a spell in our home. A welcomed change from the boys behaving like the old married couple I lovingly refer to as The Bickerson’s. I savor the quiet after the splash of the largest holiday of the year…I discover much about myself when allowed to take a long soak in the silence.
Many times the holidays take a toll on our spirit as we think of everyone else in our lives, both the fun times and the slights. The post gifting frenzy offers us the opportunity of introspection, especially leading up to the last hurrah of New Year’s.
When the introspection ensues, it can bring us a mixed bag of feelings, i.e., happiness, nostalgia, anxiety, and sometimes…regrets. Perhaps what we do with this mixed bag of feelings sets the tone for our upcoming year. If we take the time to listen, we may find some interesting answers.
Regrets…we have all been there before…not followed through on a personal or business commitment, said something hurtful or perhaps acted in a way that didn’t align with our core values. If you have received the hurt, then you regret not standing up for yourself or setting a boundary. Whether you have been the giver or receiver of distress, one thing is certain, “the act” tends to haunt us, making it difficult to let go.
There’s a great saying about regret…Regret is like a bag of bricks. You can shoulder the regret and let it slow you down, or you can take the bricks out and use them to build a stronger foundation for your life.
So while I know that the New Year brings many of us to think about resolutions to tame the bulge, fit in fitness, quit smoking, get organized, help people, etc. I think the best solution, rather than resolution, is to let go.
Let go of the hurts that we have inflicted on others, maybe even try to make those hurts “right” or as “right” as they can be. Maybe a loaf of bread from Rudi’s is a great peace offering.
Moreover, let go of the hurts that shackle us. By letting go, you will breathe the first, fresh and free breath of the New Year.
What will you find in your quiet?
More importantly…what will you let go of?
About Kristin Beltaos, M.A.
Kristin Beltaos, M.A. is life/business coach and owner of A Gift of Miles and creator of The Scrumptious Truthä, a food allergy and intolerant education and support program. She provides national life coaching and support services to those dealing with Stress Management, Food Allergies and Reproductive Challenges via telephone, web conferencing and in-person in a variety of clinics in the Twin Cities. Prior to her life coaching business, Kristin was employed and independently consulted for a variety of companies in the areas of business and strategic planning and marketing. She is also a former board member of the Anaphylaxis and Food Allergy Association of Minnesota. Kristin’s eldest son has multiple food allergies to: dairy (by touch and ingestion), eggs, peanuts, tree nuts and sesame. Stay happy and informed by following Kristin and A Gift of Miles on Facebook and Twitter and The Scrumptious Truth on Facebook.